If you’re like me, you find yourself in a rut during the winter time. It feels like nothing new is happening and your life has hit a dry spell. Well, after doing a little thinking, I’ve come up with seven ways you can be happier right now.
1. Surround Yourself With Good Company
I recently turned 21 and looking back on my life, I realized a lot of the dramatic parts where I was unhappy were due to toxic “friends”. Believe me, once you can differentiate between who your ride-or-dies are and who the people are in your life that are only there to help themselves, you’ll be living a much happier life.
2. Take The Time To Notice When Things Go Right
A lot of times, I feel like we let little, petty problems get in the way of the things we should actually feel good about. When you’re feeling stressed out or having a rough day, take five minutes to think about what has gone right that week. Whether it was getting a good grade on that test, finally being able to afford those shoes you’ve been eyeing for weeks, or something as simple as eating clean that week, give yourself some credit. Small victories will eventually turn into large ones, just give it time.
3. Set Goals For Yourself
For me, setting goals is a way to hold myself accountable for putting in effort to achieve them. I consider myself anything but a failure so actually writing out a set list of goals to achieve helps keep my mind focused and occupied on achieving them. I like to write out three goals for the semester and set the list on my desk. That way its right where I can see it and a good reminder as to what is actually important in my life.
4. Never Settle
There are a lot of times where young women, myself included, will continue to put up with someones BS because they are too afraid to walk away. A lot of times, when you get into a groove with someone it starts to feel comfortable and familiar and walking away leaves you exposed and thrown out of your comfort zone, so you put up with the unhappiness that person brings you. Looking back on a couple of miserable relationships I’ve been in, my biggest regret is not walking away when I should have. Find the courage to break out of that comfort zone and keep telling yourself It Will Get Better!
5. Be Your Best Self
Find what character strengths you have, whether its loyalty, confidence, honesty, integrity, and put them to work in your every day life. Use these strengths to your advantage and you will see an improvement in your work ethic, relationships, and hobbies as well.
6. Learn How To Differentiate Between Excitement and Reality
I’m a big culprit of this one. We tend to relate happiness to exciting moments, so when we go a while without having a super exciting moment in life, we feel that our lives are coming to a standstill; this is especially real when you’re 21. I’ve learned that I need to find a balance between the exciting moments in life (nights out, date nights, shopping trips) and the more meaningful ones (family dinners, catching up with a friend, planning for the future). Once you find the balance, you will find each day just as enjoyable as the last.
7. Count Your Blessings
This one is super important. A lot of times I wish that my life was fast-paced, exciting, and ultra-luxurious, and so I sometimes forget to realize that I am extremely blessed to live the life I do and to have the family and friends that I do today. When you find yourself floating way above the clouds, take a moment and reflect on all the blessings you have in life and you’ll be back down to Earth in no time.
xox – Ashley